Caroline Myss is a spiritual explorer, a leader in the field of healing and consciousness, and bestselling author of several books, including “Anatomy of the Spirit” and “Sacred Contracts.” She regularly holds classes and lectures and makes her essays available on her website www.myss.com and on her Facebook page.
This week we were particulary struck by her essays on forgiveness, and letting go of the nedd for justice and explanations for events in our lives.
“Until you surrender the need to know why things happened to you as they did, you will hold on to your wounds with intense emotional fire. Your mind will want to heal, but your pride, anger and emotions will remain caught up in wanting to make sure that the people who hurt you feel bad about what they’ve done. Or you may want to hurt them back. But rest assured, your emotional self will remain attached to the unfinished business rooted in feelings of abandonment and humiliation, of having lost something or been cheated. Your mind may do what’s required for healing and go through all the prescribed steps, but your heart will never fully participate in the healing process. In the end, forgiveness is an act of release, surrendering the need for an explanation. From that perspective, forgiveness has nothing to do with the individuals who harmed you. It is the act of accepting that there is a greater map of life, through which flow many rivers of events and relationships, all interconnected. Forgiveness is your release from the hell of wanting to know what cannot be known and from wanting to see others suffer because they have hurt you.” Caroline Myss, 5/20/14