Ties of Dependency, by Psychic Sahar Huneidi

Article first appeared in Prediction Magazine, August 05, page 21.

Our birth marks the essence of our experience in this life, and perhaps defines our spiritual growth and who we are beyond being a profound astrological marker.

Our First Experience

Our first incarnate experience was being in the womb, when we totally relied on our mother. There, we first learnt the ‘art’ of dependency in order to survive and the art of trusting- unconditional trust that we are always be provided for. These two primary lessons are two sides of the same coin. We learnt to consume and assimilate every stimulus through the umbilical cord, our mothers had to think for us, feed us, and make all decisions on our behalf, while we grew in a cushioned warm environment; until the moment when left womb and our umbilical cord was severed.

At that very moment, we declared our existence to the world, releasing a primal scream- our first sound. As separate individuals, we are free to ‘struggle’ on our own. Seemingly, all ties to the womb, our first home, are cut. But what about the energetic ties, for these, in most of us, have not been cut! The ties of dependency remain within us.

Healing ‘severing the cord’

During the early stages of our life, these ties were necessary in order to survive. What we practiced and experienced for so long in the womb is our first cellular memory, and this established foundations which determine how we react to what happens in our lives.We need at some point to free ourselves from any negative behavioural and dependant tendencies by releasing the initial energy patterns that we learnt in the womb. Otherwise, we may manifest more ties of dependencies as we grow. This is born out of fear, or anger, or feelings of abandonment; which we continue to express prolifically and this may lead to addictions of sorts whether to food, substance or relationships.

Energetically speaking, addiction is defined as any persistent disempowering behavioural pattern. Old cellular memories condition how we behave, and accordingly our energy or vibes ‘invite’ experiences that resonate with what we carry within us, where dependency is once more relived in numerous ways, as though the ‘same movie is being played over and over; until one realises the need to heal the ‘severing of the cord’ experience, and literally ‘re-member’ our birth!

As a result, a new platform of behaviour is created where positive change can start taking place. This is necessary in order to activate our uniqueness as independent spiritual beings, the ‘I Am All That I Am’; relinquishing all fears and vulnerabilities that are inherent in being a dependant newborn.

Recently, whilst in deep mediation, much to my surprise, and in spite of having had a loving childhood, parents and family; I discovered how angry I was at leaving such a cushiony environment and for being jolted into this new state of ‘independent’ existence- the moment the umbilical cord was cut! The following visualisation may help heal that experience marking our birth and transformation from spirit to incarnate spirit.

Here is How:

Focus on the naval area and imagine or pretend that you are going back in time to the moment of your birth. If you cannot remember, feel free to make it up including all details, feelings, and sensations! The visualisation is an energetic template, a metaphor, for the purpose of cutting negative ties so you can begin to enforce positive ones. Do not worry, it does not mean that you will remove the positive feelings that you have towards your mother; it will however, bring you to a neutral or balanced point where your relationship (or memory) can now grow in an ‘energetically’ balanced way: person to person, equal to equal, adult to adult; experiencing life with more joy. With practice, you may notice that any negative feelings, beliefs or habits are easier to shift resulting in a positive impact on your life and body! Now, see yourself at delivery point where you are about to come into this world, and then as you are taken out your safe environment (reason enough to be angry!), notice how you feel, perhaps you are shocked, or confused. Then observe who is around and register any feelings as though you are watching a movie playing on a screen across your naval area. When you are ready, take a deep breath, and then feeling safe and loved, smile down to your screen, as you visualise your adult current self thanking your mother for providing such a safe and nurturing environment (regardless of how you feel about her now). Sense if there is a ‘residual’ umbilical cord, then declare in your mind, or out loud to all present (or who ever comes to your mind), that you are now an adult individual who feels safe, ready to journey through life with joy. Thank everyone involved as you dissolve and release all ties. Notice a sense of relief as well as joy; and see yourself celebrating your adult birth!

Happy birthday! Till next month, love, light and healing.

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by Sahar Huneidi
Professional intuitive, Sahar gives spiritual psychic readings, teaches meditation, psychic development; and conducts workshops on tarot, the ancient art of coffee cup reading, and dream interpretation. She is a Spiritual DIY columnist for Prediction Magazine, the original body mind spirit magazine in the UK; and is editor and publisher of PS-Magazine.com. Sahar also recently launched the first dedicated podcasting service on spiritual and psychic matters on www.psychicpodcasts.com.