The joy of a new baby welcomed into the family, spending time with a love one, or sneaking time with beloved friends are gifts that last awhile — but fall away. The enormous demands of caring for a newborn, disagreements with our partner, and life’s stresses in general redirect our emotional energy from love to the situation at hand.
Our partners, children, and those we love are triggers for us to experience love. They do not source our love – the feeling of joy and love is within us, waiting to be experienced. Despite the lyrics of all our popular love songs — our lovers do not give us love — they awaken the feelings of love dormant within.
The front page of a recent People Magazine showed the smiling face of a celebrity with the words “I Found My Love” in bold print on the cover. This is one of the greatest misconceptions of our age and perhaps of all ages of mankind. We look out there- at the object — rather than within to find love. Think about it for a moment — no one can give us any emotion — their behavior only arouses emotions stored within our psyche. That is why a person can stir love in a lover, disregard by a colleague and dislike by a competitor. If it were not so that person would stir love in every person on the planet.
The focus of this writing is to suggest a way in which you can increase your capacity to experience love — and that capacity is infinite.
The next time you feel a loving emotion triggered by someone. Go into the emotion. Feel the emotion. Immerse yourself in it – then detach it from the person, object, or thought that triggered the feeling. Just immerse yourself in the feeling and acknowledge that it comes from within your-self. Work to avoid the strong tendency to attribute it to someone or something outside yourself.
As you contain the feeling inside yourself – wash yourself with the emotion. Bathe in it. Embellish it. Soak yourself in the feeling of love that arises. Feel the love — play with it — try to cover yourself from head to toe with love. If you work at it — it will happen. You can imagine the emotion is holding you in a cocoon. Let yourself be layered over with the feeling of love. The cocoon surrounds you and therefore the emotion moves slightly outside yourself — it becomes spatial. Allow the feeling to pervade the space around you.
Be mindful not to let your mind look at the triggering object. To help avoid this tendency place one hand over your heart. Allow the feeling to pulsate between your hand and heart. This will make it easier to stay self-contained with the emotion. In your energy body also known as your etheric body your soul is contained behind your heart. This practice will make it easier for you to center the feeling in within yourself.
The love you experience is there because your soul is the storehouse of love. This emotion emanates from your soul. It emanates from your Self. It emanates from God.
It is bottomless — infinite — eternal — because you are a wave on the Ocean of Love, a wave on the Supreme Lover’s ocean of infinity. You are experiencing the Love of God coming from your God Part — your soul. However you only experience a fraction of this love — because you have not merged with the Beloved.
If you have a spiritual practice in which you experience love for God — or God’s love for you. You can immerse yourself in it the same way. This practice is known as Pratyahara — the withdrawing of your mind inward — a necessary step to close out the material world. All meditation is based on drawing the senses inward.
I wanted to take a yogic spiritual practice and suggest how anyone can use the object of their love to deepen the source of love within their soul. In this way they can get a taste of the love of God. The truth is that god is immanent in the universe as energy. This means that our atomic /sub-atomic makeup is God immanent in the creation. We are part of God, as are others but do not see it. God is one – therefore God will appear to us as disguised object igniting our inner journey of love.
I believe the purpose of individual love which fluctuates, passes, and is subject to the throes of time is an invitation to seek eternal love. The object of our love is God in disguise — initiating the experience of love within us. All the saints and mystics — Western and Eastern — have experienced this oneness with the Creator. The greatest Christian Saint of the Thirteenth Century, Meister Eckhart, said, “God gives birth to the Son as you and me, as each one of us…I find in this divine birth that God and I are the same.” A Twentieth Century Sufi Teacher, Sheik Muzaff said, “Within you is that which transcends the universe.” The point being that God within is infinite.
I’d like to quote from a seven year old child who I will identify as Lori G. “Love is the strongest thing in the world…and to know when love is near you will feel love in your heart. To love you cannot tell someone you love them but yourself must feel love.”
Why not explore this experience for yourself? The journey starts with a simple exercise. Embrace the love that you project on loved ones. At the least you will experience more love for those in your life and be more loving in general. At best, you may decide to engage in other spiritual practices and deepen your experience of love within your soul.
Don Mordasini, author “Princes and Ogres, Integration of Psyche and Soul”
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